Top 9 Tips for Choosing Your Wedding Party

wedding party

1. Think twice before you ask.

Once you’ve asked someone to be in your wedding party, you can’t go back. So while it may be tempting to ask all of your favorite friends to be in your wedding party the minute you get engaged, don’t. Take your time. Give yourself at least a month, if you can, to mull over the options. And pose this question to yourself: Do you imagine you’ll be just as close to this person in five years as you are now?
Tip for the taking: If you’re on the fence about asking someone to be in your wedding party, consider how they’d fit in with the rest of your attendants. If you don’t think they’d mesh with your crew, leave them off the list.

2. Set honest expectations.

What sort of a role do you want your wedding party to play? Is it important to you that they help to address wedding invites, dress shop with you and attend all of the prewedding parties? Or will it be enough for them to wear what you chose and show up the day of? If it’s the former, think twice about asking friends or family who live far away or have extremely hectic schedules. The worst thing you could do is set yourself up for disappointment.
Tip for the taking: For friends who can’t commit for whatever reason (they live out of town or are busy at work), let them in on just a few wedding prep activities, like an invitation stuffing party complete with wine and junk food.

3. Include your brothers and sisters.

Not to sound like mom, but think about it: Even if you’re not particularly close to his sister or her brother, siblings are going to be around well past your 10-year anniversary, and chances are, you’ll become closer over the years. If you come from a big family and you can’t possibly include everyone, draw the line at teenagers. Instead, make them a part of the ceremony by asking them to pass out programs or seat guests.
Tip for the taking: Traditionally, it’s ladies on one side and guys on the other, but feel free to break that rule and have them stand on either side of the aisle.

4. Consider the size of your wedding.

You can have as many (or few) bridesmaids and groomsmen as you like. The average wedding party size is eight – four bridesmaids and four groomsmen. Use that as a guide when you decide. Depending on formality, go larger or smaller. For a smaller wedding with around 50 to 60 guests, have no more than four, but for a larger wedding of, say, 150, you could go up to 12 if you really wanted to. Just keep this in mind: More isn’t always merrier. The more bridesmaids or groomsmen you have, the more people to coordinate with, find a flattering tux or dress for, and work around schedules with (can you imagine trying to find a free weekend for a bachelorette party with 12 bridesmaids?).
Tip for the taking: If there are a lot of people you want to include in your wedding party but just can’t, give them other roles, like usher, ceremony reader or candlelighter.

5. Call him the man of honor and her the best woman.

Guys can stand with the bridesmaids and women can stand with the groomsmen. It’s really up to you — what’s most important is that you include your favorite people, women and men.
Tip for the taking: There are no hard and fast rules about how to dress them. You can dress your groomswomen in tuxedos or dresses (or even rompers!), and your bridesmen can look just like the groomsmen or they can match their suits to the bridesmaid dresses. Just make sure they’re comfortable with whatever you want them to wear.

6. Choose responsible honor attendants.

Choosing your best man and maid of honor might not be an easy task. The best honor attendants are friends who are responsible (since you’re going to rely on them for some big wedding planning tasks and to hold on to your expensive rings) and friends who are good at providing emotional support, because there just might be a few prewedding meltdowns. (It also helps if they’re super-fun, since they’ll be planning the bachelor and bachelorette parties!).
Tip for the taking: If your best friend isn’t always the most dependable person, it’s perfectly okay to have two best men or maids of honor. Pick your unpredictable BFF and another friend you can rely on for the big, important duties.

7. Don’t ask someone just because they asked you.

Weddings are no time for quid pro quo. You don’t need to ask someone to be in your wedding because they asked you to be in their wedding. Don’t ask the college roommate you haven’t spoken to in five years just to return the favor.
Tip for the taking: If they want to talk to you about why they aren’t in your wedding, be completely honest. Explain that it was a tough decision but you really felt like you should have the people you feel closest to at this point in your life standing up for you, and there are so many of those people (including her) that you had to leave out some very special ones.

8. Research other roles.

You might need ushers to lead the guests to their seats at the ceremony, plus a couple candlelighters and program distributors. But there are a lot of other options as well than just bridesmaid and groomsman. Maybe you have a musically inclined friend who would love to play something at the reception. Or what about that friend who is an amazing writer? Have them write up something to read at your ceremony.
Tip for the taking: Think twice before offering your friends obscure, not-so-needed positions, like “guest-book watcher.” (Would you want to do that?) Most people would be happier with a VIP corsage and a reserved seat at the ceremony.

9. Kids aren’t required.

If there are no children you two feel particularly close to, you don’t need a flower girl and/or ring bearer. And if you have many children you want to include, feel free. Have three little flower girls instead of one and give them each their own basket of flower petals. Or have your two little guy cousins walk down the aisle as pages. They can bear the ring, hold a keepsake or carry a “Here Comes the Bride” sign.
Tip for the taking: Having an adults-only wedding? You can still have kids play their roles at the ceremony and not allow them at the reception – maybe even set up a room with a babysitter during the reception with some fun, kid-friendly activities.



Hot 10 colors of bridesmaid dresses 2015

The bridesmaid dresses 2015 are various from color white to black and elegant to sexy style, chiffon to tulle fabric. What we can conclude is that bridesmaid gown is more and more pretty fashionable that bridesmaids can show more personality by choosing the best suitable bridesmaid gown. Here I want to talk about the colors about bridesmaid dress in 2015, the top 10 colors you can choose to prepare the dress to plan a wonderful wedding.

blush pink bridesmaid dresses

Pink is such a rosy and feminine color, and a natural and romantic choice for wedding party attire. Pink bridesmaid dresses can range from a barely-there blush to a vibrant hot pink, with many beautiful hues in between! Here are some of my favorite pink dresses for bridesmaids in shoppable format!


Image source: silver gray bridesmaid dresses on weddingbuy

Silver grey bridesmaid dress is in a shade called “Fancy Nickel” by Ann Taylor. I love putting grey with yellow, sage green, navy, lavender, and pinks of all shades, but today I decided to put peach accessories with it for a little change. While silver or pearl accessories would also be a fine choice, peach is subtle bit of color that adds a golden warmth and an unexpected color combination.

While silver sandals are also natural pairing with silver, I thought a neutral strappy sandal would add a nice wear-it-again shoe, since a neutral shoe in any color that blends with one’s own skin tone always seems to elongate the leg no matter what the outfit. Add a pretty peach bouquet with a little bit of sparkle to it, and your bridesmaids are ready for the aisle in style!

gold bridesmaid dresses

Gold has become one of the most popular wedding colors or accent colors in recent weddings, and it seems like it will continue to be a popular pick for the foreseeable future!

If you are thinking of including gold in your wedding party attire, but your taste trends more toward subtlety than sequins, this look was made with you in mind! This dress is a perfect classic silhouette with a fit and flare style that would look good on anyone and would have definite wear-again possibilities. The fabric is a subtle pastel brocade with gold thread woven through — this shade in a minty gold, and there is also ivory gold (which is lovely and looks slightly more silver) and there are also blue and pink tinged dresses.


Image source: sage green bridesmaid dresses by weddingbuy

Sage green is a color choice inspired by the savory herb, sage, that flavors some of the aromatic cuisine this time of year.  Sage is a beautiful color for fall or winter weddings; to me, it’s an idea combination of a pale green with a bit of blue and gray. More on this lovely sage green bridesmaid dresses on weddingbuy.

pastel champagne bridesmaid dresses

Image source: champagne bridesmaid dresses on weddingbuy

As a person who loves neutrals, and paints all the rooms in her house various shades of beige, I must recommend champagne bridesmaid dresses.

I think nothing looks quite so elegant as bridesmaids all lined up in a pale taupe or champagne. I especially love the look with long gowns, and I also like variations of it like this mismatched bridesmaid look.  A long gown in a neutral color is just so regal for a black tie wedding, but it would also fit for a beach bridesmaid, or a garden wedding bridesmaid. I love how it pairs with blush, gold, silver and black or cream. There’s so much you can do with this, and it keeps the textures interesting, and you can adjust the colors to keep it from looking washed out.


Pastels will forever have a place in wedding attire, and the soothing pale green shade of mint has been a mainstay of wedding colors for several years now. Perhaps one reason for its longevity is, in addition to being a soothing shade, it seemingly evolves slightly each season. Many of this year’s mint dresses are in barely-there shades of green with more soft gray and blue undertones mixed in than previous seasons. These dresses are available in new dressy jersey fabrics, matte silks, crepes, and embellished styles. Because mint is available from many bridesmaid dress collections and in such array of fabrics, using mint as your bridesmaid dress color is a great starting point for creating a mismatched look.


A lavender color scheme is always a great choice for spring and summer weddings. As far as accessories, I love how bright like coral, pistachio green, and yellow pair with this lavender shade.


Image source: brown bridesmaid dresses by weddingbuy

If there’s one color I certainly haven’t featured enough in my style collages, it’s brown. In my own wardrobe I wear brown quite a bit–especially in fall–but I haven’t come across a brown dress with wedding-ready look that has inspired me.


Coral color is a great shade for a wedding in any setting, the peach and pink undertones of this color are simply fantastic for a beach wedding. The contrast of this orange tone against the blue sea and neutral sand is ideal, and really pops in pictures!


Peach tones abound in wedding themes — one can literally use the fruit as decor, or just rely on the hue to give a romantic glow to the day. It’s the perfect compromise to pink and because of it’s touch of orange, with just a hint of blush. To get things started, here are some of pins on Pinterest for Peach bridesmaid dresses ideas.

My advice is always to pick the venue before you even think about your bridesmaids will wear, because the setting really can dictate what look works. Chiffon, cotton, and light gauzy jersey materials are light and ideal for the beach; heavy thick satins or non-breathable synthetics are not!  If you’re planning a beach or destination wedding, plan on a dress that will hold up to sun, ocean mist, humidity, and sand all the other fun the beach can bring!

Mismatched champagne bridesmaid dresses 2015

Pastel bridesmaid dresses are hot, absolutely popular among there years. From blush pink to mint green, from wedding gown to bridesmaid dress. Neutral pastel has become the trend. Champagne, gold, beige, ivory, cream, nude, skin pink, pale pink, silver etc. all these neutral pastel colors make the dress for maid more pretty trendy. And now we want to talk about the one most popular style of mismatched pastel bridesmaid dresses for wedding 2015 so you can have a modern stunning big day memory.

 mismatched champagne bridesmaid dresses

The first step is to figure out what type of mismatch you want. You may want to take into account how many bridesmaids you have, the wedding location, and the length of dress you’d like them to wear and the degree to which you want the mismatch. If you want a mismatched look that allows your bridesmaids to pick a style that suits them, but doesn’t make it vague about what color you want, you can do what I consider the easiest mismatch: the ‘simple’ mismatch, if you will. With the ‘simple’ mismatch, just pick a dress color or fabric you like and allow your maids to pick from a handful of styles that you approve of.  This method allows everyone to get a style they like without too much hassle and pretty results. You can vary the neckline, skirt length and bodice style.

The artful mismatch is the one that is the most complex to get right, and also looks the most mismatched.  This look appears as though you’ve just said to your bridesmaids, “please wear a a cream or taupe dress” — and I’m sure some brides have been able to simply ask for that have it all work out, but I suspect for the wedding parties that perfectly mismatched, there’s actually some significant planning to make sure the shades have some variation but also look cohesive.  If you go for this look,  I’d think about it almost like you’d approach a home decorating project; just as a room usually has different textures and colors and fabrics that all work together, so it goes with this look.  Neutrals are a beautiful choice for this mismatch, because the soft, muted hues are forgiving if they don’t exactly blend, and one can unusually find a stunning pattern or sequined or beaded gown that will tie some of the other dresses together and make the whole look work.

So if you go for this look, the fabric doesn’t need to match, the style of dress doesn’t need to match, but there just has to be a pleasing blend of colors, without too many colors of the same hue.  Think of having choosing a few of the solid color dresses above, then perhaps add in a few textured, like lace or a sheer fabric, and then a few beaded, and make sure the beaded or printed dress tie in with other dresses (For instance, if you have a champagne dress, and a deeper taupe gray gown, find a printed or beaded gown with a bit of champagne in the background, and taupe in the beading to tie it all in.)

To make sure you like the look all together, my suggestion is to pick a few dresses you like and using Pinterest or Polyvore and play around with grouping these dresses together. Then, you’ll want to either go to the store or boutique or order them all online and get them together make sure they all work in person. If you like the look – you’ve found your dresses! Boutiques are very used to assisting with this mismatched trend by now, so if you tell them your color palette they’ll probably be happy to help!  I’ve included some of my favorite neutral bridesmaid dresses both short/long and sequined here to get you started. 

short mismatched champagne bridesmaid dresses

mismatched champagne bridesmaid dresses

Image source: champagne bridesmaid dresses by weddingbuy


Some tips to teach you how to choose wedding dress in fall and winter

1 Keep warm

Compared to the spring and summer, autumn and winter will seems cool, you can not choose silk, chiffon, satin, large mesh fabric those feel cool fabrics when you select the wedding dresses . You should choose some thick warm fabrics.

Raiders: If you’r wedding dress is strapless style, you can consider to add a piece of clothing, such as long sleeves, bring a jacket, or a luxury fur shawl, elegant small gloves are the best choice.

purple mermaid wedding dress

2 How to wear sexy strapless wedding dress

Both warmth and beauty is not possiblity for winter brides, if you want to have strapless wedding dress in cool winter to become a sexy bride, it is a dream for most brides, but how to wear such sexy strapless wedding dress?

Raiders: The best way is accompanied by a wedding dress with the color of fur shawl. It is better to choose comfortable texture,thick,strong insulation fabrics, such as velvet, corduroy warm colors or have the effect of sequined fabric for strapless wedding dress.

black strapless mermaid wedding dress

3 Do not superstitious white wedding dress

Fall and winter is already cold season, pure white wedding dress is less romantic and fun in this season.

Raiders: 2014 autumn and winter wedding dresses trends, it is not the single color, it will become a bit colorful. Such as white wedding dress plus a little red or champagne embellishment, it is prominent in the sense of color jumping. Brides can make a bold color wedding dress when you choose the wedding dress. To choose some bright color will more warmth and happiness in fall and winter.

one shoulder beige chiffon wedding dress

4 Do not give priority to fancy styles

Bride-to-be definitely think that they will show the most beauty in the wedding day, it will pick up some complex and new style, due to cool for fall and winter, some long trailling wedding dress will make us feel redundant.

Learn the cost of a bridesmaid dress

It’s totally normal to experience some sticker shock when you’re shopping for bridesmaid dresses. Bridesmaid dresses (especially floor-length gowns) can easily cost upwards of $200, with many falling in the $300 range. But knowing what goes into creating a runway design, like the dress above from the Amsale Fall 2015 bridesmaid dress collection, can help you make a more informed decision when picking dresses for your bridesmaids. We got the scoop from wedding and bridesmaid dress designer Amsale Aberra to find out what exactly goes into the price of a bridesmaid dress.

Anatomy of a Bridesmaid Dress |

Having a Designer Pattern

“Generally, the more expensive the dress, the more time is spent on making it,” says designer Aberra. An expertly crafted pattern— including time-consuming steps like hand-tucking and pleating—is the key to a unique look and a flattering fit that flows beautifully on a variety of body shapes. After the pattern has been created by a designer, it’s fitted in a showroom on a model (to make sure every seam is completely perfect), shown on the runway, and then finally goes into production.

Using Pricey Materials

All fabrics are not created equal, and the cost will vary depending on quality. More expensive chiffon, like the one this dress is made of, is crafted from silk. It’s sheer and flows easily as you move. Polyester chiffon, a budget- friendly option, tends to be a bit more opaque and stiffer. The same goes for tulle and lace—some variations will be pricier depending on quality and construction.

Being Made to Order

Some dresses for taller or plus-size ladies are custom- made and, as a result, cost extra. But even standard sizes aren’t mass-produced. They’re sewn when ordered— and all are cut from the same dye lot (meaning the fabric for each is dyed together for an identical hue).

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